SM and BDSM are often referred to as Sadomasochism which is a portmanteau of the words sadism and masochism. The abbreviation S&M is often used for Sadomasochism (or Sadism & Masochism), although practitioners themselves normally remove the ampersand and use the acronym S-M or SM or S/M when written throughout the literature. BDSM is a variety of often erotic practices or roleplaying involving bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, sadomasochism, and other related interpersonal dynamics. The term “BDSM” is interpreted as a combination of the abbreviations B/D (Bondage and Discipline), D/s (Dominance and submission), and S/M (Sadism and Masochism). BDSM is now used as a catch-all phrase covering a wide range of activities, forms of interpersonal relationships, and distinct subcultures. BDSM communities generally welcome anyone with a non-normative streak who identifies with the community; this may include cross-dressers, body modification enthusiasts, animal roleplayers, rubber fetishists, and others. Sadomasochism is the giving or receiving of pleasure from acts involving the receipt or infliction of pain or humiliation. Practitioners of sadomasochism may seek sexual gratification from their acts. While the terms sadist and masochist refer respectively to one who enjoys giving and receiving pain, practitioners of sadomasochism may switch between activity and passivity. The term Kinky sex is now commonly used to refer to the aforementioned unconventional sexual acts.
In human sexuality, kinkiness is the use of non-conventional sexual practices, concepts or fantasies. The term derives from the idea of a “bend” (cf. a “kink”) in one’s sexual behavior, to contrast such behavior with “straight” or “vanilla” sexual mores and proclivities. It is thus a colloquial term for non-normative sexual behavior. The term “kink” has been claimed by some who practice sexual fetishism as a term or synonym for their practices, indicating a range of sexual and sexualistic practices from playful to sexual objectification and certain paraphilias. Currently, the term “kinky sex”, along with expressions like BDSM, leather, and fetish, has become more commonly used than the term paraphilia.
What percentage of all populations do people like kinky sex? According to the 2015 Sexual Exploration in America Study, more than 22 percent of sexually active adults engage in role-playing, while more than 20 percent have engaged in being tied up and spanking. Namely, one out of five people is interested in kinky sex. Fifty Shades of Grey Trilogy are the best-known classic film novels about kinky sex.
kinky sex is generally any sexual practice that falls out of convention — commonly considered acts such as loving touch, romantic talk, kissing, vaginal penetration, masturbation, and oral sex. “Kink” itself refers to anything that bends away from the “straight and narrow,” though there are a few categories that commonly fall under the kinky sex umbrella:
- BDSM. When most people think of kinky sex, they think of BDSM, a four-letter acronym that stands for six different things: Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism. BDSM includes an extremely wide range of activities, from light paddle spanking and dominant/submissive role-playing to bondage parties and pain play.
- Fantasy and role-playing. One of the most common forms of kinky sex involves creating imagined scenarios. This could be as simple as talking about a fantasy in bed, to as complex as wearing costumes or acting out scenes in front of strangers.
- Fetishes. One out of four men and women are interested in fetish play, defined as treating a nonsexual object or body part sexually. Common fetishes include the feet and shoes, leather or rubber, and diaper play (yes). Coprophilia is also a form of fetish. Coprophilia (from Greek κόπρος, kópros—”excrement” and φιλία, philía—”liking, fondness”), also called scatophilia or scat (Greek: σκατά, skatá—”feces”), is the paraphilia involving sexual arousal and pleasure from feces.
- Voyeurism or exhibitionism. Watching someone undress or watching a couple have sex without their knowledge are common voyeur fantasies while having sex in a public place is one form of exhibitionism. Both are surprisingly common (and kinky) — 35 percent of adults surveyed were interested in voyeurism.
- Group sex. Threesomes, sex parties, orgies, and more — group sex is any act that involves more than two people. Ten percent of women and 18 percent of men have participated in group sex, while even higher percentages voiced interest in the idea.
People who engage in Kinky sex will agree on the following principles:
Jointly agree on each other’s acceptable limits and strictly abide by them.
- For example, a secret code is agreed upon, which is the so-called “safe word”. When the situation is uncomfortable or the body can’t bear the load, saying the safe word can terminate the activity. Safety words are usually words that are not spoken during intimate behaviors, such as “Tai Chi” or “Red Light”. Avoid setting words that are easily misunderstood as “Don’t” or “Dying” as safe words, so as not to be confused by the other party. Are you really happy? Or do you want to terminate?
- Everyone has different preferences. If you absolutely don’t want to do something, agree with each other first.
Having said that, if your sex partner is a person who likes traditional sex, then she does not like having a candle, a whip, handcuffs, spanking, shameful words (Asking the master to punish him), blindfold, role-playing, bondage experience, and so on. Therefore, it is a trend for people who like Kinky Sex to find sex partners in the Kinky Sex community.
